Newsletter December 20, 2024

Let Go of Fear!

Can you imagine reaching a place where you no longer feared the unknown? A space where you trusted that what’s around the corner won’t harm you? To me, that would be absolute freedom. Not spending time consumed by “what ifs” about the future is my personal definition of peace.

We’re just five days away from Jesus’s birth, and it’s so easy to get swept up in the chaos of Christmas—the gifts, the tree, the meals, and my adult children coming home for the holidays. Striving for perfection in all of it? It can drive me crazy! But I must pause and ask myself: What truly matters this time of year? Is it about achieving perfection, or is it about finding peace, being still, and thanking God for sending Jesus to Earth for all of us?

This season, I’ve been listening to Advent reflections on the Hallow App and Ascension with Father Mike Schmitz. On the 18th, Father Mike spoke about fear and shared a story I’d heard before but never fully absorbed—until now.

He talked about Joseph. When Mary revealed she was pregnant with the Messiah through immaculate conception, Joseph was confused, fearful, and even considered divorcing her. Can you imagine? In today’s world, I think I’d probably run for the hills, too! How could Mary be “the one God chose”? Joseph’s fears were real, and his gut reaction was, “I need to get divorced.” Yet he didn’t follow through—he trusted God.

Reflecting on Joseph’s fear brought me back to my first marriage. When things got tough, my first instinct was also to run. “This is too much! I can’t handle it!” My fears about the future and regrets from the past felt overwhelming. Looking back 20 years later, I think: If I had taken the time to get sober, reach out for professional help, or even lean on my faith, would my life have been different? Of course, it would have. But would it have been better or worse? I’ll never know—and it doesn’t matter. What matters is that I’ve learned not to let fear dictate where I’m going.

Father Mike reminded me of something profound: None of us know what the future holds. The only certainty is that we will all leave this Earth someday. So why do we waste so much energy projecting what might happen tomorrow, next week, or next year?

Joy. Peace. Love. Gratitude. These gifts exist in the now. Worrying about the future—something none of us can predict—is a complete waste of time. I want to trust that everything will unfold in God’s time, not mine. My job is to live life one day at a time, one moment at a time.

Years of experience have taught me this: Nothing is inherently “good” or “bad”—it just is. My role is to learn from the past, avoid projecting negativity into the future, and stop setting unrealistic expectations. I once heard that expectations are premeditated resentments—and it’s true. Life feels so much lighter when we let go of what we wish would happen and accept things as they are.

This will be the third Christmas my son won’t be home, and yes, it breaks my heart. I wish I could change it, but I can’t. I have to trust that God has a plan.

To anyone reading this: I pray you have a wonderful Christmas. Take a moment to reflect on this—you’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough. Life isn’t easy for any of us, and no one has a “perfect” life. (Honestly, I think the only “normal” thing is Wonder Bread!). You are uniquely you, and that’s beautiful. Embrace it.

In closing, I want to share the Serenity Prayer, a powerful tool that has helped me navigate moments of fear and uncertainty:

The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Remember—you are never alone. God is with you every step of the way.

Sending you big hugs and so much love this Christmas season.

Merry Christmas!

XO,
Elizabeth “Bizzy” Chance

Newsletter for Friday the 13th of December 2024

Have a Happy Holiday Season…. No Matter What!

Now you may be asking yourself:

o   How in the world can I have an amazing time…I have invited blank to our dinner?

o   How can I have a fun holiday…a family member is sick?

o   How can I have fun…my family is totally dysfunctional?

o   How can I have fun…I am broke?

o   How can I have fun…I am going to be alone?

I am sure there are many more questions out there to challenge me about how to have fun when my life isn’t perfect. The answer to all the questions that I have mentioned is no matter what you believe is in your way to happiness, God always provides something positive and your only job is to find the positive in your own life.

Again, you may be scratching your head and thinking, “There is nothing positive in my life!”

I challenge you this holiday season to find something in your life that brings a smile to your face.

Now I can name a few things that make me happy, and I don’t think that I am the only one that finds happiness inthese:

Watching “It’s a Wonderful Life”

Watching “Meet Me in St. Louis”

The movie “Home Alone”, just the look on Kevin’s face is funny!

“Elf”! Will Farrell trying to fit into a child’s chair is just hysterical.

Driving around and looking at Christmas lights while your favorite carols are playing in the background.

Baking.

Reading an amazing book.

Writing out a gratitude list.

Dream….

Make plans for something that you have wanted to do for a long time…a bucket list item.

Time is such a fleeting thing and I think at times that I will have all the time in the world to do what I want to do but let’s face it, time is speeding past! It is time to get into action. Enough thinking!

My go-to in life is relaxing and letting go of the noise. I can always find happiness in the quiet and when I turn things over to God.

How do I do this.

1.     I try to wear life like a loose garment. Meaning I envision myself in a flowy dress and nothing else. Like when I get home from a day at the beach and shower then throw on a dress that is unconstricting and breezy. This visual gives me the feeling that everything is alright. I am comfortable and the world is good! (Even when it is spinning out of control)

2.     Listen to the song, “Let it Go” from “Frozen”!

3.     I pray and use the Hallow app religiously (no pun intended). I have found so many great challenges and meditations that help propel me into a better space.

4.     One of the collections I love has a prayer at the end that you repeat 10 times. That prayer is “O Jesus, I surrender myself to you, take care of everything” This is my definition of freedom and happiness.

Bottom line is that happiness is an inside job.

We will not find happiness unless we first find it for ourselves. It is hard I know! But take the time to be nice to you and love you! Once you do that your life will fall into place. In the beginning you may have to fake liking yourself! As I learned a long time ago, fake it till you make it.

Have a wonderful weekend and week ahead, I’ll be back next Friday and until then be nice to you!

XO

Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for December 6, 2024

Forgiveness

Why is forgiveness so hard for people? I know that I have had a very hard time forgiving others in my life and I believe in the end it has hurt me more.

When I saw that President Joe Biden pardoned his son Hunter, it didn’t surprise me or anger me at all. It was a human moment for the President. In the end wouldn’t we all pardon our child? I know if the roles were reversed, and I was the President and my child battled addiction I would pardon my child. I know that Hunter is a broken soul. He has battled addiction for years, in fact probably his entire life.

Hunter lost his mother and sister in a horrendous car accident in which they both were killed. He was 3 years old and was in the car, but he and his brother Beau lived. The event was very traumatizing, Hunter walked away from the accident, but he had a brain injury. Again traumatizing.

Then when Hunter was 45 his brother Beau passed away from Brain Cancer!

And you wonder why the President has such a soft spot for his child! Hunter is his only living child from his marriage with his wife Neilia Hunter Biden. Side note - I see that Hunter was named after his mom; her maiden name was Hunter.

His son Hunter battles the disease of addiction and speaking as an addict it isn’t an easy disease to battle. Insurance refers to the addict as “mentally ill”. I can attest to that; our brains are wired differently: especially if one has as much trauma as Hunter has.

Self-forgiveness is very hard for the addict. We are constantly looking back, “Who did I hurt: why did I pick up again?” And “I hate who I am and what I have done”. That constant nagging in our head and heart leads us back to our drug of choice. I do not think that Hunter is necessarily a bad person, but he makes bad choices when he is inactive addiction. His father just wants to love his son and wants his son to love himself. Hence, he did what every parent would do and that is save his son from going to prison. I don’t think the President had any choice. He had to doit for Hunter and his late wife. His conscience wouldn’t allow his son to sit in jail.

He has forgiven his son! I know he prays daily that his son gets better and if keeping him out of prison will do that, he would do it time and time again. Was the President’s decision best for Hunter? I believe probably not but I am not his parent nor God. Why? Because maybe Hunter needs to go to prison. It may be what in the end helps him. But again, I am not God nor his parent.  

The shame Hunter endures is something that I can relate to personally. I have carried shame, I think, for my entire life….it is so hard to let go of who I used to be. In our Bible study this past Sunday we spoke a lot about shame.

We are going through Father Mike Schmitz’s study about Advent called Face to Face.

Here is the link, Check out this plan: Face to Face: Advent with Fr. Mike Schmitz

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and if you want to join us on Sunday at 4pm EST here is the Zoom link:

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What I found so interesting is that Father has urged the listeners to “step out from our shame”.He also spoke about anxiety and brokenness. It was very thought provoking. Our conversations were raw. We all carry shame. Unfortunately, shame grows when we keep our secrets inside of ourselves and we don’t share them. The isolation and self-loathing help to keep the shame growing and our personal sadness stick!

Rather than keeping your secrets it is time to let yourself be seen! Forgive yourself!

God has already forgiven you! God loves you more than I could ever express in words. But God’s love is always there, he knows who we are! All the lies and hurts he is already aware of! He knows, so who cares what other humans think about you? Friends come and go and so does family for that matter. So why not just be you!

Let your true self shine with all your heart

I believe forgiveness takes work! Speaking to a therapist, a priest, a sponsor or doing the 12 steps from Alcoholics Anonymous can help you get to the place where you no longer regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

My personal shame lingers at times, but I am continually working on myself. It isn’t easy but getting closer to God and our Blessed Mother Mary has helped more than I can describe. I know God loves me and you! Our egos are so big that we think that we are unforgivable people but that isn’t true! I love the acronym of EGO, easing God out. God has forgiven us, and it is time to forgive ourselves.

Get to work.

Love you all and thank you for reading.

XO

Elizabeth akaBizzy

If you have a story you would like to share let me know, elizabeth@elizabethchance.com I would love to have you on. My new hashtag #ConversationsWithBizzy.

Newsletter for November 29, 2024

Black Friday  

I remember when Black Friday was introduced! Marketing it at its finest. Run, you must get the deals! Set your alarms because the store is opening at midnight, and you don’t want to miss this once in a lifetime deal! Anxiety and fear inducing advertising. Did you fall for it?

Not to shame you but I never did…because let’s face it I wasn’t going to go stand in the cold with a bunch of strangers in the middle of the night in the freezing cold hoping to get my hands on an item that I could wait for.

I am writing this on Thanksgiving morning, and I feel like the same fear and anxiety provoking behavior is now happening all the time! Its Thanksgiving and the media are promoting fear at your Thanksgiving dinner table! Just because you didn’t all vote the same way? Give me a break!

In my humble opinion I think that we all cherish our family time a lot more than politics!

It is the start of Advent on Sunday and I for one is excited. Not only because I can unapologetically listen to Christmas music all day long, and decorate my home like Mrs. Claus, but it is the start of the real meaning of Christmas, Jesus’s birth.

This Sunday I start my Bible Study and I am over the moon to start reading the bible with friends from all over the Country. If you want to join here is the link patreon.com/elizabethchance. I have never read the bible from cover to cover, and it has been on my so-called bucket list for a long time. We are going to use Father Mike Schmitz book, “Bible in a Year”. It should not only be a learning experience but a time to bond with people over the greatest book ever written. I love that Ben Shapiro says, “it is the best self-help book ever written”.

This Christmas season will be about getting closer to God and celebrating the real meaning of Christmas. No drama and no anxiety or fear, just love, hope and peace.

It’s ironic that God tell us not to fear numerous times in the bible. We need to trust, let go and know that everything is going to be ok! This does not mean that everything is going to be easy, or life is going to look the way we think it should look, but it will be the way God has intended. It is crazy that everything that I thought was so painful to go through in my life is where I have learned the most.

My hope for all of you reading this is that you go into this holiday season with less anxiety and expectations. That you all can enjoy each day and cherish it like it could be your last and know that God is good. Life is a gift, and the best present is living in the present rather than the past or the future.

Talk to you all next week and until then sending blessings and love to you all.

Again, I am grateful for everyone reading this.

God bless you.

XO,

Elizabeth aka Bizzy

P.S. The start of my new branding began this week and now you find me under “Conversations with Bizzy”, I’ll always be Busy Living Sober that is just me.

“Why I Rebranded” because I wanted my message to be enjoyed by everyone. My mission is to share “Real talks about life, love and finding the light within”. To talk about, Relationships, Recovery, Spirituality, Motherhood challenges, stories of triumph and resilience. My guests are women who have started their own business, people that have taken risks and are willing to share their stories, conversations about life, hope and connection.

If you have a story you would like to share let me know, elizabeth@elizabethchance.comI would love to have you on.

My new hashtag #ConversationsWithBizzy

Newsletter for November 22, 2024

Things are changing….

Do you ever feel like you have been at something for so long and it isn’t getting the results you had envisioned? What do you do? Give up? Pivot? Or walk away frustrated? 

I have been having these feelings for a while….

For those of you that know me personally know that I am very extroverted and outgoing. When I meet a stranger they feel like we are friends right away. From a brief conversation the person will ask, “What do you do?” My answer is always, “I host a podcast.” Then they respond, “What is the name of your podcast? What do you talk about?” My response is “Sobriety and it’s called Busy Living Sober”.... They then think about it and respond, “That is nice, but I don’t have a drinking problem.” Hence I would walk away scratching my head… my podcast isn’t all about sobriety, but the name! UGH…

When I started Busy Living Sober my main objective was to change the stigma associated with addiction. I can say with certainty that is happening! More and more podcasts are coming out discussing sobriety. Either people are getting sober because they have a real problem or they are “sober curious” and they have come to the conclusion that alcohol is not great for them. In general my main objective is coming into fruition and for that I am grateful and feel like today it is time to change! 

In the past I have made little changes but nothing stuck! I did as they say half ass! 

I have some fear! I will lose some of my devoted followers if I change. It has been 8 years recording under the same name and changing it could cause confusion and backlash. But not doing anything is not an option anymore! 

I have come to the fork in the road where I am either going to continue or change. Go straight or get off of the path that I am on and try something new. The road I choose may be a little rocky and bumpy at first but it is time to change things up!

You may be thinking, “What is she doing?” 

I am still going to be sharing people’s stories under my new name. I am just going to be able to share more peoples stories, not just recovering alcoholics and drug addicts. 

My new mission is  “Real talks about life, love and finding the light within”

What do you think my new title of the show is going to be??? 

Reach out and let me know what your thoughts are and stay tuned this week for new reveals. I promise you are going to love the new changes. 

BTW if you feel like you need a change in your life please reach out with what you are going through…you may be my next guest.

Thanks for always being there and supporting me. 

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. I know that all of you are going to be mentioned when I share what I am grateful for this past year. 

Gobble, gobble, gobble. 

Love you all.

Elizabeth aka Bizzy 

Happy Friday November 15, 2024

The Spirit of the Season

Hi hope today’s newsletter finds each one of you well.

Do you feel the energy in the air? The hope and excitement that life is getting back to what it used to be like is what I've been feeling. I used to wait until after Thanksgiving to put up all my Christmas decorations, but now I'm really itching to do it! The carols, lights, trees, and feelings that come with Christmas—I'm so excited for it all! I read some article or something that said if you start listening to Christmas music and decorate early, you'll be happier. So why not?

Why not? Should we move up Christmas, so it lasts from before Thanksgiving through New Year’s? As I write this, I think… NO, we should wait, but I am so excited for Christmas.

Wow, this is an example of how writing things down puts life into perspective. I know that I've had times where thoughts keep coming, one after another.Rational, irrational, but they keep coming. My mind isn't quiet, and I want to react to each idea and feeling, but we can't. Writing down what's happening in our minds can hopefully give us perspective.

Just a side note LOL

Back to the impending holidays. This week kind of felt like Christmas for me. I had the chance to go in front of the camera. "Inside South Florida ," a lifestyle show here in South Florida, (if you want to take a look at the show https://www.wsfltv.com/inside-south-florida, I’ll be sharing the clip once it gets published Thanksgiving night) invited me on. I spoke briefly about my story and made two mocktails. It was so much fun! I just love being in front of the camera; it felt so natural.

For so long, all I wanted was to be on TV! I love lights, camera, action! I applied for so many jobs in TV and never got the callback. My excuses to soothe myself were that I am too old, too fat, and maybe not good enough. Instead of waiting for a job, I decided to make my own show. No regrets! Everything has happened exactly as God planned.

I tell you this story because it reflects how life is; we have dreams. We all grow up hoping we can be this or that, and sometimes it happens easily for some. From afar, it looks like they didn't put in much effort, yet their dreams came true. For others, more obstacles are placed in front of us. The key is staying true to yourself. Don't give up! God has a plan

My dream of my show growing means changing its name. My 500th podcast is coming out on November 27, and moving forward, the show will be called"Conversations with Bizzy". I believe this name change will expand my audience beyond just sobriety talks.

Lastly, to help you get excited about the coming holidays, we are going to start reading the Bible on December 1, 2024. If you're interested, or if you have a friend or neighbor who might be, please sign up to my Patreon at patreon.com/busylivingsoberpodcast.We'll have open and honest conversations about what we've read that week in the Bible, discussing any questions or confusions we may have.

That’s enough from me!

Have a stupendous weekend and week, and I’ll be back next Friday.

Sending love and hugs

XO

Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for November 8, 2024

Phew…

I am so relieved!

Day 3 of knowing that President Donald J Trump will be sworn in on Monday January 20, 2025! BTW do you any of you know how I can get tickets for the inauguration? I am so HAPPY!

Tuesday morning started with my phone ringing; friends were so worried! “What is going to happen with the election Elizabeth, I am so scared I am pacing all around my house.” My response was “Don’t worry, God didn’t save him on July 13, 2024, in Butler, PA for no reason. He is going to win”. Now, I was kind of nervous myself, but I was taught one must fake it till you make it.

The only problem that I find unfortunate is the responses from some Democrats. They seem to feel like the world is coming to an end. As a Republican in 2020 I was frightened because for one, I thought the election was stolen and two was that I had no idea how Joe Biden was going to govern. Here, 3 ½ years later, no wonder I worried; life has been totally upside down. 2+2 does not equal 4! The lesson I learned was that I had justified fear.

With Trump, we have already experienced him being President. There were no wars, my checking account had a larger balance, I didn’t leave the gas pump thinking, gosh that was a lot. Not to mention the grocery store! We are only buying for 2 and every time I leave the store, I look at my cart and am flabbergasted by how little I got and how much it cost! With Trump as our commander and chief life will resemble more of what I am used to. That brings me a lot of comfort.

One last point I must make: isn’t it crazy that the minute he won, Hamas has decided to no longer attack Israel. Is that a coincidence? I think not. They called an immediate end of war right after Trump won.

Change is hard but thankfully I believe that America is going to be Great Again! This is just the beginning.

Let’s all come together and pray, thank God that in January life is going to be better!

Take care everyone.

Sending big hugs and love.

Until till next time.

Have a wonderful weekend.

XO,

Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for November 1, 2024

History always repeats itself…

In 5 days, on November 6th, we will hopefully have a new President and we will know exactly who won this election. I don’t know about you, but I am so tired of the back and forth and the name calling. This election feels like it has been going on for years…I guess it has been, but I am so tired of it. Are you?

The crazy thing is that people are saying we won’t have results for a long time. They are also saying that there will be a civil war whoever wins and that the powers that be really want civil unrest.

My big question is who are the powers that be? Who is at the helm of the Democratic party? Joe Biden? I don’t think so. Kamala Harris? I don’t it’s her either…we have guesses at who it is but why in the world isn’t the person who is calling the shots acknowledging and taking responsibility for their role?

Why don’t we have transparency? Again, the powers that be think that we, the American public, can’t handle the truth. What are we? All a bunch of babies? I don’t get it.

This most interesting bit of information that I received was from my husband this week. He read an article about the presidential election of 1800 between Thomas Jefferson and John Adams. They behaved like children too back then. John Adams weaponized the Sedition Act to have Jefferson supporters imprisoned. His supporters also asserted that if Jefferson won it would mean the end of the republic.

And Jefferson’s supporters said that if Adams were re-elected, he would never leave office and in fact he would turn the office of the presidency into a monarchy and name himself king!

As we know from history, in the end both men served as President of the United States.

But doesn’t all this sound familiar 224 years later?

We still don’t have a King, and life goes on.

What still bothers me is the fact that we don’t know who is behind the Democratic party. Obviously 224 years ago we didn’t have cell phones, televisions, and all the numerous forms of communications that we have today. In 2024 we have more confusion than ever. One person is right, one person is wrong but there is no nonbiased information out there.

So, on November 6th where will we be? In even more confusion than we are today? Everyone will have cast their votes, once or twice for some and what will the results be? Will it matter? Will we still be living in a hateful world? Or will it be time to surrender and relax? We will have one winner and the fight will be over at least for the next 3 years. We can have peace.

I know I sound delusional, but it would sure be nice if next Friday’s newsletter I can talk about how all the fear and other negative emotions I have felt the last year plus were for nothing. In the end, the winner is the one most of the public elected. Because we as a whole think that this one person will help us move forward, closer to peace and an economy that will not longer eat every cent at the grocery store and gas pump.

Here I go again walking down an optimistic path.

On election night I may just have to watch Netflix and see how the aftermath looks on Wednesday.

God is good and he knows what is best even if it is different than some believe it ought to be. Trust in the process.

Until next Friday be well and breathe and pray that the best person wins this historic race.

Sending best wishes to all.

XO

Elizabeth

Newsletter for October 25, 2024

Where Do You Find Community?

For those who might not know, I was raised Roman Catholic. I practiced faithfully until the disturbing reports about the priests came to light. That was my breaking point, leading me to join St. David’s Episcopal Church.

When I left Catholicism, I was confident in my decision, especially for the sake of my children. They received their sacraments at St. David’s, where Reverend Frank Allen became not just our minister but a pivotal figure in our lives. He was more than a spiritual leader; he was family, helping me raise my kids as a single mother.

I'll never forget when Rev. Frank survived a horrific plane crash with his family. It felt like a divine intervention. Under his guidance, we learned about God, hope, and faith. His influence was profound, and I credit him and the St. David's community for much of my family's upbringing.

In December 2017, Rev. Frank married me and my husband in what was one of the most magical days of my life.

Life moved on; my youngest, Henry, left for university, marking the end of my hands-on mom era. With all my kids studying out of town, the house felt empty. So, in January 2019, we decided to escape to Florida for what was supposed to be six weeks. That was almost six years ago.

Florida's beaches and warmth captured our hearts, but something was missing—a church, a community. Finding 'our people' has proven to be quite the challenge.

Fast forward to 2024, in a world where everything feels inverted, where darkness seems all too close, and the need for light is desperate. I've searched for another Rev. Frank, but some people are irreplaceable.

This April, a trip to Medjugorje transformed me. Now, Jesus and Mary are central to my daily prayers. From rarely attending church, I've shifted to engaging with the gospel and praying the rosary every day.

Navigating a new church community has taught me patience and the importance of fit. In this journey, the Hallow App and various YouTube sermons have been my guide through these turbulent times.

Now, for some exciting news—On November 4th, right before what could be the most pivotal election of our lives, my friend Father Dan Reehil will join me on my podcast. We'll discuss why it's crucial to vote in this battle of good versus evil. Tune in, regardless of your political stance.

Moreover, starting December 1st, 2024, I'm launching a year-long Bible study group. We'll read the Bible from cover to cover, and you can join us from anywhere via Zoom. If you're interested in being part of this journey, reach out to me at elizabeth@elizabethchance.com.

Let's keep praying for our country and the world. Together, we can bring more light into the darkness.

Sending love to you all,

xo,

Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for October 18, 2024

Two Weeks to Go: My Heart's Tug of War with Hope and Fear

I sit here 17 days from the Presidential election, and I am feeling both fearful and hopeful at the same time.

After spending the last year posting about who I am in favor of I continually hear backlash! I get that everyone gets an opinion but why, if someone doesn’t like what I put on my page, would they leave rude and negative comments? I would never in a million years go on another person’s page who has differing views and leave unnecessary comments.

Where did our right to believe what we want to believe go? I remember my parents not that long ago enjoying friends’ company who had different opinions than them and they still got along.

My thoughts are that social media has taken away all forms of manners and morals. Who cares? No one cares anymore, love of neighbor is gone. If you have differing ideas, then you are now an outcast!

Since admitting that I am an alcoholic over 18 years ago, I have learned so many things. I will not list them in this newsletter, or it would be pages and pages long. But one of the biggest takeaways is that everyone is allowed to believe what they want to believe and support whatever they want and the only thing that is important is not to pick up a drink. Hence, I haven’t had a drink since joining my fellowship.

Why I am bringing this up is that in my little club fellowship (with millions of members) we talk about a higher power who I call God and God is the most important thing in our lives. God is at the forefront of our lives. Most give credit for their sobriety to God. I may go one step further and say Jesus is the one that took away my obsession to drink.

With that said, in the world we are all living, whether you are a member of a program or not, God is in charge. God knows all and we are living today in darkness.

I have been talking a lot with my husband JF about this election and why we are supporting President Donald J. Trump, and we have many reasons and the most important is that we believe that his values match ours.

We both love God and our country; we grew up saying the Pledge of Allegiance and learned that we lived in the best country in the world. Times have changed and people no longer love God as much as they did, and they don’t really care about our country. It is more about loving ourselves, weare so self-centered today. Feed our little souls with materialism and goods. We know longer want to fill ourselves with love and community.

Yes, President Trump can be mean and crass, but we also believe that he is passionate. I am very passionate and when in I’m passionate about something what comes out of my mouth can be colorful. I get that every human is like this in some way. We all say things that later we wish we could take back, but we can’t go back all we can do is move forward. Since the President’s assassination attempts, I believe he has become a humble man. He loves America and what it stands for.

So many women are supporting Kamala Harris because of her abortion stance. It kind of confuses me. President Trump wants to leave the decision up to the States so that it is no longer a federal issue and women don’t like that. They want it to be a universal law. But some states in the Bible Belt feel much differently than people feel - let’s say in California. I think this is fair. There are more ways today to terminate a baby than there were when I was young.

Does human life really matter?

I have a conundrum, is it ok to kill babies and have wars all over the world where again innocent people are dying? Is it ok to kill any baby at any time and is it ok to have wars all over where women, men, children are killed for no reason but for oil or religious views? It is a fact that when President Trump was in office there were no new wars. Is that a coincidence or is it that leaders around the world respected him?

As you can see, I have never been a sheep and I don’t believe everything I read or watch but I can tell you I will not vote for a cackling idiot that could never meet with Putin or Kim and be taken seriously. I truly believe she is a threat to our democracy.

If you do not agree with me that is ok. But I will never understand that people support someone that was not even voted to her position. She took over Joe Biden’s post and did nothing to earn her Presidential nominee position, but from reading and listening I think this is how Kamala Harris rolls. She hasn’t worked for anything; she just fits the box that the Democrats want to be filled.

Enough of my babbling. I am fearful that if she were to win so many things in this country will get worse.

If history shows us anything it is that 4 years ago life was easier. People were still managing to get along. Groceries were not as expensive and neither were houses, gas, and everything else we purchase at stores. We were living in a country that 2+2=4! There weren’t wars all over the globe like there are today. Peace was had by all. Was life perfect? No! But we weren’t living in the insanity we are living in today.

Kamala Harris is supported by the machine that will not come out and say who they are even though we can all guess and assume who is in charge and the outcome of the Biden Harris office is ugly to say the least. It is so dark!

I for one don’t want to live in the dark anymore I want light!

If you disagree you are allowed your opinion but please send me your thoughts via email elizabeth@elizabethchance.com. Please no more negative comments on my social media pages.

Bottom line you do you boo boo.

God Bless you and this Country!

Until next time keep getting busy living sober.

XO

Elizabeth

Hurricanes, Fear, and the Sun's Return

The night after the storm

Living in Florida means embracing paradise for most of the year, but come hurricane season, our lives become a dance with weather apps, hoping no storm brews on the horizon. Hurricane Milton was one such dance partner, looming large for over nine days, growing in size and drama with each forecast. Meteorologists painted vivid pictures of impending doom, scripting a narrative of fear that urged everyone to flee or prepare.

This anticipation of a hurricane mirrors life's bigger storms: those looming events or revelations that could shake our world, filled with potential for chaos and change. We live in fear of these futures, uncertain and often paralyzed by what might be.

Yet, life has taught me a profound lesson about transparency and vulnerability. I've shared my story, my "bumps and lumps," my past mistakes, and my triumphs. This sharing, this baring of my soul, has been like shedding a heavy backpack of secrets. Secrets, after all, are the true sickness of the soul.

Growing up, I was taught to care more about appearances than authenticity. My mother, God rest her soul, was more concerned with neighbors' opinions than my own feelings. Church was about fashion, not faith. "What will people say?" was her mantra.

This mindset nearly broke me. The shame, the secrets, they were crippling, perhaps even fueling my battles with addiction.

This October, I invite you to join me in a different kind of storm preparation. If you've faced addiction, whether your own or a loved one's, share your story with me. If anonymity comforts you, I promise to keep your identity safe.

Why share? Because in sharing, we find relief. A sponsor once told me that writing is direct communication with the divine. Perhaps in your words, you'll find healing.

Imagine the aftermath of a hurricane. The tension, the fear, culminates in the storm's arrival. But come the next day, the sun often shines, revealing a new reality. We assess, we clean up, and we move forward.

This is what sharing our stories does. It brings our past into the light, allowing us to see it for what it is and to begin the cleanup. Life isn't meant to be lived in the shadows of regret and shame but in the brightness of today.

Take that first step. Write your story. Feel the liberation. If you're willing to share it with me, or even allow me to share it with others (anonymously if you wish), you might just light the way for someone else feeling lost in their storm.

Our shared stories weave a tapestry of connection, reminding us we're never alone in our struggles.

Now, I step out into the Florida sunshine, embracing the day after the storm.

May your weekend be filled with light and may you find the courage to share a piece of your journey.

Take care, and keep embracing your sober life.

XO,

Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for October 4, 2024

Fall, Family, and Finding Peace: Embracing Change and Letting Go

Can you sit back and let things happen, or do you always feel the need to share how you’re feeling?

Family, I’m heading on a vacation to visit my daughter in Vermont, and it’s stirring up a lot of emotions. I’m nervous! Isn’t that crazy? It feels that way, but with my birthday approaching—turning 56—my emotions feel bigger than ever. You’d think by now I could keep my feelings to myself, but I’m human.

Family, in particular, can be so triggering for many of us.

They’ve known us forever—since childhood, middle school, high school—and, if you’re like me, there are parts of our past we’d rather forget. But some family members love to remind us of our past mistakes. These painful memories are things we’ve worked hard to accept and move past, perhaps with the help of a professional. However, not everyone in our family gets the same guidance, and they sometimes can’t help bringing up the past, no matter how much we wish they wouldn’t. So, how do we move forward?

On this trip, I’m taking the first steps toward a different kind of relationship with my children—one that’s healthier and more functional than the one I grew up with.

It’s going to take effort to keep my feelings and thoughts in check, but I’m determined to use the tools I’ve learned on my journey. Some of those tools include:

• Don’t take things personally.

• Breathe.

• Let comments and gestures slide.

• Avoid reacting.

• Think before speaking.

• Ask myself: Does this need to be said? Does it need to be said now?

• Take a time-out: go for a walk, return to the hotel if necessary.

Building good memories requires effort and boundaries. Before this trip, I talked with my daughter about our boundaries, sharing mine as well. These boundaries aren’t about creating distance; they’re about preventing feelings of hurt.

We both want this weekend to be fun and memorable, and we’re committed to doing whatever it takes to ensure that.

Relationships, especially those with family, can be tough—especially when we carry old hurts or expectations. But if we can let go of expectations, we can be present in the moment and open to surprise.

We all need a little help and support when striving for healthy relationships.

This year, with the election looming, there's even more anxiety in the air. But by communicating openly and listening to each other, my daughter and I are setting the stage for a great trip—one that will hopefully leave us excited for the next.

The foliage in New England will be at its peak, and like the leaves that change color and fall, we are all constantly evolving. Embracing change is key, because it’s inevitable, and resisting it only makes things harder.

Ultimately, it’s not about seeking approval from others—it’s about cherishing the time we have with the people we love. We can’t control what our children grow up to be, so we might as well practice restraint of tongue and pen.

Enjoy this glorious fall weekend wherever you are, and remember, God is always with you. His love is unconditional, and with that knowledge, you will never be alone.

Sending love and big hugs to all.

Love,
Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for Friday, September 27, 2024

Healing

Have you ever felt hopeless at some point in your life?

Growing up in the 70s and 80s, I watched a lot of television. I often found myself comparing my life to what I saw on screen. I longed for what I perceived as the ideal: a happy mom and dad, nice siblings, and the perfect family. Unfortunately, I didn’t get that dream. Today, though, I find joy in witnessing other families heal, and it makes me so happy.

This week, I had the honor of watching two friends experience healing within their families.

One of my friends, George, grew up in what seemed like an amazing family. But he had a secret—his mother struggled with mental illness. His father did his best to cover it up, becoming both mother and father to George and his brother Mike. His dad went to work, made money, cooked dinner, and made sure they were dressed for school. He was, in many ways, a hero, creating a sense of normalcy for his children.

Despite this, George and Mike grew up believing their family was ideal, only to realize later that their mother’s absence and struggles were significant. They rarely talked about how they felt, which only added to their anxiety. Keeping family secrets can be damaging—secrets make you sick.

Recently, at a family christening, the brothers sent their wives back to the hotel and stayed up late talking—really talking. They shared their experiences growing up and how they both saw things similarly. Without judgment or drama, they laughed and cried. For the first time, they spoke openly about their mother’s illness. It was a moment of closure and freedom from the burden of carrying that secret.

The second story involves my friend Elliot, an alcoholic who has been struggling for decades. Despite his many attempts to get sober, nothing seemed to work. Yet, he never gave up.

When his daughter was getting married, Elliot desperately wanted to be there for her. A friend intervened, taking him to treatment as his health was rapidly declining. This time, Elliot took recovery seriously because he wanted to live and be present for his family.

The wedding was difficult. His ex-wife has remarried a man who now fills Elliot’s role in the family. Seeing his daughter love her stepfather was a painful reminder of all he had lost to his disease. Thankfully, a fellow alcoholic in recovery accompanied him to the wedding. Together, they processed the weekend, and Elliot was able to express his feelings without judgment.

Later, Elliot called his ex-wife and took responsibility for his actions. Without making excuses, he spoke honestly, and she listened without judgment. This conversation marked the beginning of a new, healthier relationship, one built on mutual respect and forgiveness.

Both stories brought tears to my eyes. They experienced something many of us long for—healing and forgiveness.

If there are rifts in your family or relationships, and you have the opportunity to let go of the past and listen with an open heart, things can change. Forgiveness is powerful.

God always forgives. It is we humans who struggle with forgiveness. If you have someone to forgive, do it. I promise, nothing feels better than letting go and embracing an open heart.

Have a wonderful weekend, and thanks for reading.

XO,
Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter: Friday, September 20, 2024

Dreams…

Can you believe we’re already halfway through September?! Time flies when you’re having fun!

There’s a lot of noise about politics and the upcoming election. Who do you unfollow on social media because of their political opinions? It’s a dark and scary time, and so many people are living in fear.

But today, I want to put the noise aside and challenge you to dream. When was the last time you got lost in daydreaming? I love sitting outside, leaving my phone behind, and staring up at the clouds. As I’ve mentioned before, I believe heaven is right above us, and I often think about loved ones who are now there.

I trust that God, the Blessed Mother, my mom, and friends I’ve lost are all looking out for me from heaven. This trust allows me to let go of fear about the future and, in turn, to dream.

I used to dream of being on television and becoming famous. That dream has never left me, though it looks different now. The internet has given me a platform to share my thoughts and conversations, fulfilling a piece of that dream. I wanted to be the next Barbara Walters—someone who could report the news and have in-depth conversations with fascinating people. To me, she was the last real reporter.

Today, my dream is to be known for changing the stigma around addiction. I don’t want anyone to feel alone or ashamed about this devastating disease. Addiction doesn’t discriminate, and it leaves families and friends lost and in need of support. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard from loved ones of addicts saying they feel powerless and without resources.

This is why I’ve been pursuing my dream through my podcast, videos, and mocktail recipes. I’ve had many specialists on my show who offer solutions for those who are struggling. And now, with this newsletter, I’m ready to take the next step.

I’m planning to host an event—a dream I’ve had for a long time.

But I need your feedback.

I’m thinking about hosting this event during the last weekend of February, from February 28th to March 7th, for 10 women. It would be a weekend of connection, relaxation, and growth. We’d swim, take a boat ride, and just spend time making new friends in a safe environment. So many of us feel alone, and this would be an opportunity to meet new people and share our experiences.

What do you think? Would you be interested in attending?

If it’s not for you, no hard feelings. But I encourage you to dream. Open your mind and heart to happiness, love, hope, and faith. It can change everything.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have an amazing weekend.

Love you all!

Have a happy, happy day!

XO,
Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for Friday, September 13th

It’s Fall, and My Calendar is Busy!

Happy Fall! This week has been full of activity—attending Alpha, starting my first Bible study, and preparing for my son Henry and his fiancée Alyssa’s visit this weekend. Life is so good!

Reflecting back to when my children were young, I remember how we were always rushing from one place to another. In hindsight, it wasn’t the recipe for happiness—it was a recipe for chaos, filled with deadlines and stress.

If I could go back—though I know I can’t—I would have prioritized sitting around the dinner table more. I would have made time for real conversations, listening to each other’s experiences, sharing what was bothering us, and simply being together.

What brought this reflection on? My experiences with Alpha and Bible study.

“The Alpha Course outlines the core principles of the Christian faith that all denominations agree on. It’s designed to emphasize that what unites us is infinitely greater than what divides us. Alpha opens doors for meaningful discussions and the transformative power of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.”

On Mondays, we meet at church, share a family-style dinner, and then watch a 20-minute video about the Gospel. What follows is a group discussion where people from different walks of life—various careers, ages, and faiths—share openly about how the video resonates with them. It’s been such a powerful experience, teaching me more about myself and those around me.

The Bible study I’m attending, Walking with Purpose, is a “Catholic” Bible study, but the message is relatable for any Christian, as it’s rooted in Scripture. Our group is a mix of women of different ages and faith backgrounds, and their stories have been deeply inspiring. Hearing about their journeys and life experiences has been both fascinating and enriching.

Where I am in life now has changed. I’ve slowed down and am trying to appreciate the things I missed when I was constantly busy. Today, I’m figuring out who I am, what drives me, and what truly matters. This shift began when I said “yes” to going to Medjugorje. If I had said no, I would have missed the chance to grow closer to God, explore the Bible, and understand its stories in a deeper way. That simple yes also expanded my community—I’ve gained new friends and acquaintances in just the past week.

Life is amazing when we say yes. No fear—it’s time to learn, love, and grow.

Henry and Alyssa are coming home to a mom and stepdad who are a little more evolved than the last time they saw us. I like to keep my kids on their toes—LOL! It’s such a blessing to be not only a mom but also a friend to my grown children.

If your kids are still young, my personal advice is to slow down and smell the roses. Constantly running from one activity to the next isn’t sustainable and robs us of our peace and serenity. It’s okay to miss a game. If I could do it all over, I would have spent more time just being with my kids instead of driving everyone crazy with schedules. By the end of the day, we were all anxious and tired, and the last thing anyone wanted to do was sit down for family time.

Make the time now—you won’t regret it.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Sending love and hugs,
XO,
Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Self-Love and Authenticity

Whenever I shop and a salesperson suggests different dresses or outfits, I confidently know what I will or won’t try on. With age and experience, I can clearly say what I like and want. For the first time in my life, I can honestly say I love myself and embrace my authentic self, no matter what others think—and that is truly a privilege.

I remember growing up, hearing my mother say that as we age, the need for approval from others fades away, and she was right.

Lately, I’ve been writing every day for an hour, after being encouraged to share my story in a book. This week, I started, and now I’m over 10,000 words in. Reflecting on my childhood and teenage years has brought so much into perspective. My life has been quite an adventure, and I know there are many more chapters to live.

Life is such a journey, and spending time wishing things were different is a waste. We can’t go back! All we have is right now. I used to spend so much time wishing my life had unfolded differently, revisiting events from the past. But no power in the world can bring back time. So, instead of dwelling on what was, I’ve learned to embrace my past, because everything happens for a reason. It may take months, years, or even decades to understand why things happened the way they did.

This realization recently hit me hard. In my family, I always saw myself as the black sheep (you’ll understand why when you read my book). I felt like an outcast. But I realize now that labeling myself that way only made my life harder, more stressful, sadder, and lonelier than it needed to be. A friend of mine recently shared a similar story about labeling herself the “black sheep,” and it opened my eyes.

Years of sobriety and 12-step work, along with the passing of my mother, have helped me let go of those labels and self-pity I carried for so long. It took decades, but I can now say with certainty that I was the one who cast myself as the villain—no one else. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself that I didn’t have the courage or self-love to let go of that false narrative until recently.

We all put labels on ourselves that aren’t necessarily true. If we asked our friends or family to describe us, their responses would likely be very different from the ones we assign ourselves. Negative thoughts and emotions can skew our self-esteem and authenticity. I carried so much guilt and shame from my teenage years, dragging those feelings around like a backpack full of bricks. It weighed me down, and I had no self-compassion. This lack of self-love showed in how I acted and the emotional walls I built around my heart.

Time is a healer of most wounds—whether they’re self-inflicted or caused by others. Now, in my mid-50s, I’ve learned to love myself and to love God. I’ve come to realize that God always forgives and loves us unconditionally. It took the time it did for me to arrive where I am now, but I can tell you this: it’s never too late to build a relationship with God. The gifts that come with it—like self-love and the ability to be your authentic self—are priceless.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Sending big hugs and love,
XO
Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Inclusivity and Openness

Looking back on my younger years, I always had a deep desire to include everyone, a trait that has carried into my adult life. However, there was a time when I acted contrary to this value—when I was drinking. During those years, I wasn't always the kindest person. I surrounded myself with those I perceived as better or more affluent, driven by a need to climb the social ladder. It was a difficult time, and the truth is, I didn't like myself very much.

It wasn’t until recently that I realized how misguided my thinking was, especially within my own family. I wanted to stand out, which led me to isolate myself, feeling as if I were wearing a scarlet letter. Over time, I came to understand that I had turned myself into a victim. Have you ever felt like that?

Being a victim is an isolating place. No one wants to hear a "woe is me" story, and the irony is that I put myself in that position. Yes, people said hurtful things, but how I chose to react was entirely on me. No one else can control how we feel—only we can.

It's fascinating to realize that our mindset shapes how we perceive and react to situations. Today, I’m genuinely happy—not just putting on a façade. I like who I am, inside and out. I no longer feel the need to impress anyone, and as a result, I’m more open and eager to connect with others.

When we are open and content, God brings so many gifts into our lives. But when we’re closed off, everything seems dark and sad. I believe that those who have a relationship with God tend to live happier, more content lives.

As we approach Labor Day weekend, I encourage you to include others—whether it’s sharing a meal, taking a walk, or simply having a cup of tea or coffee. Let’s be open and inclusive, and take a moment to appreciate the laborers who helped make this country great.

Wishing you a wonderful Labor Day filled with love, connection, and joy. Remember, you are never alone.

XOXO,
Elizabeth aka Bizzy 

Newsletter for August 23, 2024

Finding Hope in Hopeless Times

Life can be overwhelming, and sometimes it feels like everything is crashing down around you. Darkness, fear, and loneliness can seem all-consuming. But even in these moments, remember—you are not alone!

Light always conquers darkness, and there are ways to find that light. Here are some tools that have helped me, and I hope they can help you too:

• Pray: Get on your knees and pray!  There’s power in prayer, and humbling yourself this way can change everything.

• Gratitude List: Start small if you need to—maybe just a single word for five things like the sun, air, trees, grass, and a place to sleep. Gratitude is transformative.

• Turn Off the TV: Especially the news. It’s just noise that adds to the chaos. Disconnect and reclaim your peace.

• Music and Movement: Play your favorite music and dance around your house. It’s not only great exercise but a perfect distraction from the stresses of life.

• Feelings Aren’t Facts: Remember, nothing stays the same! Just as the world changes in an instant, so do your feelings. Don’t let them dictate your reality.

• Connect with God: God, the Blessed Mother, and your Guardian Angels are always with you. Acknowledge them and say thank you—it could always be worse.

• Reach Out: Call an old friend or relative. People love hearing from someone they haven’t spoken to in a while, and it will lift both your spirits.

• Read a Book: Escape into a great story. Grab a cozy blanket, a cup of tea, and let your imagination take you to a peaceful place.

• Cook Something New: Try a recipe you’ve always wanted to make. The simple act of cooking can help your worries fade away.

• Believe in Miracles: They happen, and prayer works. Embrace patience and learn to live in the unknown. Don’t assume the worst—positivity can change everything. And remember, you’re not a mind reader or a fortune teller, so hope for the best!

These tools have been very helpful to me, and I hope they offer you the same comfort and strength. Life’s constants—the sun, the moon, and the ocean—will always be there, rising and falling as they always have.

Enjoy your journey; this is the only ride you get.

Wishing you a wonderful day and an even better weekend. I’ll be back next week, sending hope, love, and prayers your way.

XOXO,
Elizabeth aka Bizzy

Newsletter for Friday August 16, 2024

God! 

18 years sober and yes the world has changed in so many ways. One can get sober using a plethora of choices. AA, SmartRecovery, SoberSis, and Recovery Church to name a few. What works??

I believe that having a relationship with your higher power that I call God is of the utmost importance, but how do people find God if so many people don’t believe? We are in a real conundrum.

Today (Thursday) I was in a parking lot pulling out of a space. The parking lot was not full; there were many open spots to park. I started reversing and I heard honking. I looked back and a young man was honking and screaming. I rolled down my window and looked at the guy and said, “God Bless You.” He then screamed, “FU, I don’t believe in God! I am a Pagan!” I said, “Good for You, I still wish you the best.” He then stuck out his middle finger and said,  “It is people like you that make me not believe.” So sad! 

Lately, I have been hearing and seeing more people than ever before scream that they don’t have faith! They don’t go to church, or trust in anything but themselves! 

Now, I am not a Bible beater and I don’t think it is my place to tell people what is right and wrong to believe. But I can tell you from first hand experiences we are living in dark times! 

In fact I think that not having any faith at all could be the most important issue of our times.

We need to count on something.  Having blind faith and knowing you have God watching over you not only brings you calm and peace, it reassures you that you're not facing life alone. 

The disease of addiction is very isolated and lonely. 

The addict is isolated, the family members are in a constant state of worry! It is such a scary disease! And, today the disease is hitting more families than ever.  

One cannot speak with their friends about a family member that is sick with addiction for fear of being judged! 

When one has nowhere else to turn it is so comforting to know you have God. God listens anywhere you are. You can get on your knees in most places and ask for help. The help that you have asked for may not be immediate, but I know I get relief when I ask for help! 

God is there for all of us! We don’t have to battle these tough times alone. 

Knowing you have somewhere to turn is comforting and I conclude that we all could use a little more God and a little less self reliance. I know for me personally I cannot solve my problems alone. I need help from others and starting my day asking for God’s guidance and help throughout the day benefits not only myself but anyone I come in contact with during the day. 

Humility is tough for a lot of us but I promise you being humble will give more gifts than you could ever imagine. 

Try it! Let me know how it works for you. 

Have a wonderful weekend. 

Sending blessings to all that are reading this today. 

XOXO

Elizabeth aka Bizzy 

Newsletter August 9, 2024

reenactment of 4am

Do you ever wake up in the middle of the night?

I don’t know if you ever wake up way before your alarm, at say 4 am, filled with worry; but I have to tell you I do sometimes. I wake up and of course I have to wake up JF (my hubby)...I reach over and touch him and ask in a particularly loud voice, “ Hey, are you up? I really need to talk.” He of course rolls over and asks, “What’s up?” My response is, “I’m worried!”

Now we are both awake and of course it’s pitch black outside and the dogs are still sleeping. The perfect time to talk about my anxiety about the future! 

Can you relate? 

I know that I try to preach that it is so much better to live in gratitude and faith but some days I slip and literally go to “the Dark Side”, as I like to call it. For some reason I wake up out of a dead sleep and my mind is racing… What if this happens? What if that happens? What is our plan? Do we have a plan B? “What if’s” just bouncing around my brain and it drives me crazy! 

So rather than dealing with them myself, I of course need to bring my husband along for the ride! He doesn’t know what to say, he’s asleep! But I ramble on and on about what is going to happen if we don’t do this and if we don’t do that! It goes on for 20 minutes and then I get a little angry (ok I get a lot angry) that he doesn’t have a plan! He doesn’t have a McGiveresqe plan B for us! 

It is dark my friends. To be honest I hate with all of my heart going to the dark side! But I am human and it honestly happens!

By the time we are finished with Doomsday and I have gotten really mad at my lovely husband it is 5:30! His alarm is now going off and as they used to say, “It is time to make the donuts!” LOL! He’s ready to go! In fact, he is out the door in record time! I think he is like, “Get me out of here, this lady I’m married to is nuts!” 

Btw I totally get it! I do get nuts! Yes, I am less than a week shy of having 18 years of continuous sobriety but that does not mean that I am not human and that at times I do go back to old behaviors especially when I am feeling scared; FEAR. 

He leaves and I get my warm water and it is time for me to get with God! I start my morning routine of listening to the Hallow App. It is literally a life saver. I sit with my warm water and my dogs and I pray. It is the absolutely best way to start the day! Not the way I started today in the dark! But I restarted my day and it was a total game changer! No more dark my friends. I got into the light, with God and the Blessed Mother! 

It is so nice to know that I can restart my day at any time. 

Having tools that benefit you and your mental health are as important as physical exercise. 

We are living in uncertain times and prayer, meditation, quiet, lighting a candle, getting on my knees and praying are so beneficial to how my day goes. 

If I didn’t have those tools I would have been a babbling idiot all day! 

I would have shared with my friends and family my drama! Telling them stories about what hasn’t happened yet! I would have gotten them all riled up and for what? Because misery loves company? 

Needless to say I don’t have to drag a bunch of people into my insanity anymore! I have learned tools and you can too! 

And to bring back my optimistic self, I want you to know that I pray none of those crazy stories I was telling my husband at 4 am ever come to life. 

I know prayer works and I know God is listening… he has shown me time and time again that he listens. His timing might not be my timing but in the end everything always ends up better than I could ever imagine. 

That being said I hope you and your families have an absolutely fantastic weekend. 

Sending big hugs and love. 

XOXO 

Elizabeth aka Bizzy