Newsletter #10
/Happy Friday!!!
I don’t know if you had a chance to listen to episode 424 [link to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fw4uAjx9eho] this week where I talk about worrying, and God’s winks, but I have to say it resonated with a lot of people. Ironically — or maybe a God wink — I have heard from so many people today in one-on-one conversations that a lot of people are worried. Why is that?
Another word people use for worry is anxiety. We are a society of anxious people. One of my guests on the show was Dr John Delony [link to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tt_gatZ6ow0] who makes a living coaching people via his book and podcast about how to have a non-anxious life. And is that working?
Tucker Carlson made a fascinating comment on his interview with Lex Friedman last week that “Our society is so sick. People are still picking up and using drugs knowing that they are laced with deadly doses of fentanyl”. And, he is right!
There is a famous TedTalk and study about rats. I am going to abbreviate the story but here’s the gist. Rats that lived in solitary worlds used cocaine and drugs a lot more than rats that lived with other rats and that had fun things to do with the other rats. The drugs were available to the rats that had a bunch of friends but the rats didn’t want it! Why? Because the rats were happy and fulfilled in relationships with other rats.
How different are we from rats? In this article from Dec. 4, 2023 Conversation.com https://theconversation.com/rats-are-more-human-than-you-think-and-they-certainly-like-being-around-us-216846 we are more similar than one would think. So what if we tried hanging out with one another more often? Is it too late?
Has AI already taken hold of society as we used to know it? I think we are not at the place where we can’t change this, I am optimistic and I think we can change. We can spend more time together socially.
Thinking back over my 55 years on this planet I can honestly say that I am so happy when I am spending time with other people. It is something instinctual that I feel when I am around others. That is why family has been such a place of joy over the centuries.
We all have theories of why our governments, the powers that be, want to keep us apart. Some believe in conspiracy theories and I respect whatever you want to believe but, I believe that we need more togetherness and less isolation. We need WE!
No more sitting in your house watching the television, or gaming with friends on the internet. It is time to come together. Whether it be at the park, church, synagogue, mosque, mall, just somewhere other than your home. We need to come together because love at the end of the day beats sadness, loneliness and anxiety.
Life isn’t about our outsides and materialism! It is about our insides! It is about our hearts, our brains, our breath. We need to learn to let the nagging inside voice that tells us that we aren’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough to make new friends. Those are all lies!
Take a chance this weekend, find a church, a group that interests you and find out when they meet and go! Go see, go take a chance. No more time for fear, it is time to come together.
Please don’t let your fears or anxieties get in the way of your happiness. Try something new, and if you don’t like that keep trying! It may take some time to like the new group but don’t give up on your happiness, you are worth it.
At the end of the day we will all feel fear/anxiety. It is part of the human make-up, but it doesn’t always have to take front and center. Think about it. If you were spending time with a bunch of friends you wouldn’t be spending a lot of time thinking about yourself. You would be listening and engaging in conversation, hopefully the conversation would be about a subject that interested you, hence why it is important to find a group that has similar interests to you.
You can make new friends, I promise.
Today my shirt says, “The Purpose of life is to be Happy” Dalai Lama
You got this!
Have a happy, happy.
Love,
Elizabeth Chance aka Bizzy